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Sunday, October 24, 2010

it is a date

Oh yes that's right Becca went on a date you heard it right. He's a nice guy, sweet cute funny has a great accent but if there is a date 2 I'm afraid there won't be a 3.
So let me start you all off with how we met. I went to the Jewish Arts Festival a couple of weeks ago. It's funny how you end up places it was the most random turn of events and the fact that I was free happened to see the ad the day before and was craving potato latkes found me and a couple of friends at a food and art fest at the Jewish Community Center. I was standing next to the music tent listening to some guy rip it up on piano and sing in Hebrew when this guy came up and started chatting. Just regular stuff 'hi I'm so and so, do you like the music, do you live here in KC' than came the 'does your boyfriend live here in KC' well considering I'm recently officially unattached I tell him so.
"I would love to have you," he says "but I am twice your age and so you do not want me I understand. But my nephew is a good boy and I pray to God that he meet good Jewish girl." He gave me the perfect out, I'm not Jewish! "This is OK," he answers "are you close to the judeo-Christian religion?" Well yes yes I am I'm catholic. "Oh this is good God has a way of bringing people together! He is a good boy, he has good job, he makes good money, he lives in good house. Please meet my nephew." At this point I am laughing so hard (on the inside) but decline. "Rebecca," he tells me "do you know what my name means in Hebrew? It means miracle, there is a reason we meet here today." What could I do? I mean he being a bringer of miracles and all and Lord knows my heart could use a little miraculous encounter. So I meet the guy, I say "Hello, my name is Rebecca. your uncle is trying to set us up." He gives me a once over and says "good uncle" Oh dear lord I don't know whether to be embarrassed, flattered or offended. I ended up just being flattered :-). So long story longer we exchanged numbers. I made a pact with a friend and invited him to Californos Monday night, and he came. Props to him for being brave and showing up to meet a girl who he didn't know with all her friends around her. Lots of brownie points for that. So he texts me the next day, we set a date for Saturday afternoon. OK so I didn't really feel a connection with him, at all. He's nice and cute and funny has a great accent grew up in Israel "he makes good money, he has good house, he is a good Jewish boy". And he apparently thought I was interesting enough to get to know better so what's the harm? So I didn't feel a huge connection with him at first impression, doesn't mean I won't later. First impressions can often be wrong. And just because Adam and I felt instantly connected and the spark was there from the beginning doesn't mean it happens that way all the time right? I mean there's a possibility we just have to chat it up for a bit and the spark will grow yeah? So I go out to lunch with him. He's nice, we meet at a nice little place eat some good food and attempt to chat. We don't have too terribly much in common. Not really any conversations going around. He says something then I do etc etc which is technically conversing yes but there wasn't any discussion or debate about any issues. And I know myself I keep my little walls up it takes me a bit to take them down and guys have to work at taking them down it's not easy (so sorry Adam). So we get through lunch and I'm thinking this is taking more effort from me than I desire it to, maybe of course this is a good thing I mean I have to keep him talking which means I keep having to stretch out of my comfort zone. I guess the best way I can describe it is I felt like I was talking to one of my customers, asking about their day, work etc. But instead of it lasting 5 minutes it was a couple of hours. He did say some interesting and funny things, I giggled occasionally there were moments where I thought 'oh see Bec this is better, you just work yourself up you need to let it flow' and then the flow would end. One thing he did say still makes me smile. He said the way Jewish people tend to look at men ans women is as follows; God created Adam and said this is good but I can do better so he made Eve. "Second model is always better and we are OK with that we know women are better than us." Hysterical. Other positives? He's OK with the fact that I am Italian and a crazy one at that. He says " this is OK God made the Mediterranean people that way, warm blood easy to boil" he asked what ticks me off, what will set the crazy Italian side off, cute, endearing. But then the topic came up about movies etc. and I quote "you must see Borat it is poetry." OK so we'll give him the shadow the doubt since English is his second language and say that he didn't mean poetry. But then he starts talking about Jack Ass and the spin off on TV Wild Boys or Bad Guys or whatever the heck it was called and what great fun it is. Oh dear heavens he's 'that guy'. I like manly guys, I like boys who are boys, I'm not looking for a girlfriend in male form BUT not that kind of boy. I want a guy who is into sports, and maybe a little nerdy who likes to watch war movies and plays poker and smokes cigars. Not a guy who thinks people causing themselves unnecessary pain or insulting others as 'good quality' entertainment. Sigh. Well better luck next time eh? I'm holding nothing against him, he will probably make someone an awesome husband and a good father but not me.
I am sure there will be more to come since my friends seeing my heartbreak want me to find that kind of happy I felt when I was allowed to love Adam. I am happy though now for the most part. I still feel released from the hold he had on my heart. I was driving the other day and was dancing to whatever was playing on the radio and I had a little image of myself in a glass cage inside my heart and I could see little me busting out and living life. Breaking through my barriers and embracing the fun of the world around me. I could feel the love that God has for the world and how powerful and pure it was. I am holding onto that strength, trying to anyhow. Holding onto the fact that God's love is so powerful it keeps everything in place, keeps this world operating, and functioning properly. And he loves me with that powerful love. And the fact that I have now learned how passionately I can love someone means I deserve someone who loves me that passionately. I deserve someone who can't stop thinking about me. Who wants to tell me things he doesn't want to tell others. Who wants to take care of me and make me feel safe. That is what I deserve, I know because that is how I love.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

it is release

I just had the most wonderful massive beautiful moment of release. I wish you all could have shared in my joy as in a single moment God touched me and said be free. And I was. Laughing and crying and laughing and crying and customers were coming in and asking if I was ok and yes of course I was I was the happiest I had ever been! So much so my body couldn't decide what to do. My laughing and crying lasted about 10 minutes and has left me with a sense of calm, a very very joyous calm. It is lovely I don't know what else to say but I am free!




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Friday, October 8, 2010

20

Our whole business in this life is to restore to health the eye of the heart whereby God may be seen.
- St. Augustine.


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Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Video moments from MB


This little guy was SO cute!!! His owners however were a big disappointment. They walk out to the shore take this pup off his leash and he proceeds to run jovially all over the place. I was hoping they would go for a lovely romantic walk along the water and with any luck I would get a chance to meet the little bulldog dog. But no. The female half of this duo began complaining about chill and wind and yada yada to help persuade the male half she got all lovey-dovey on him kissing and hugging and blah blah blah after a moment of this the dog's leash was reattached and they went back to the car where I am sure the kernoodling continued. Oh well what are you gonna do?


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This video is of my aunt, and the worlds largest margarita. We went out to Margaritaville on our last day to eat delicious fish sandwiches. Yum.

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It is arriving

I figured I should write a more cheerful post following the outburst of sad last time.

Upon arriving in KC my allergies came back like a vengeance no sooner did the plane door open I could feel all those lovely spores attacking my poor little sinuses. Welcome back to Missouri (please pronounce misery in this context) I thought. I was greeted by fantastically big hugs from my mother and father (seriously you would have thought that I had been gone months not days :-)). When I got back to the house I was greeted by a dog who couldn't be close enough to me (she used to do this as a puppy she would sit on a lap and press herself into you it was like she had so much wonderful adoration for you that the only way she could express it was to attempt to morph into you). It seemed everyone missed me whilst I was away. It is nice to feel wanted bad sinuses and all. ;-)
This morning I came into my little shop the fireplace was flickering and it smelled like coffee. Really good coffee. My aunt made fun of me my last day in MB. You see there is an apparently horrifying lack of coffee in MB. I mean THER IS NONE. You have two choices, Dunkin' Donuts and Starbucks. So after attempting to find a little privately owned coffee shop (fail) we walked into Starbucks (blegh, I've had to drink their weak americanos for 4 days) at 1130 in the morning! Those of you who know me know it is exceptionally hard for me to function properly before my cup (and yes I usually only have one don't think I'm a super crazy caffeine pumping maniac please) of life giving java. So here we are we walk in the door my aunt looks at me and says 'do you feel better now? You just have to smell it?' Oh and it was so true, I walked into that "daddy warbucks" establishment and I could instantly feel relief come over me. My headache started easing, my body relaxed and I took one deep very satisfying breath. Oh to be an addict.
Back to this morning.
I smelled the sweet sweet java and thought oh yes this is the best little shop in the world and it's mine, well it belongs to me and the several 100 people who come here on a daily basis but you get the idea.




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Monday, October 4, 2010

it is leaving

I'm sitting here in the very (very very very very) tiny Florence (not Italy but SC) airport. My flight leaves in 45 minutes. I'm listening to Sara Baerellis's new album (thanks Jenna) and thoughts are running through my head. I'm trying to focus on my book (Eat Pray Love) and all I can think of is not going back. I want to run. Can I face the life I left behind 5 short days ago? Am I ready to fight my unfinished battles? Am I ready to dig back into work? Do I have the strength?
While my Aunt and I were driving home from lunch this afternoon we drove along Ocean Ave and I watched the surf from the distance. I almost jumped out of the car and ran to the water to beg it to let me stay. Maybe the god of the sea would have pity on my plight and grant me my wish.
I know I won't be alone when I get home. I know I'll have my wonderful friends and family. I know I'll be OK, my life isn't really that bad anyways.
It's been a wonderful 4 days. Thank you everyone for all that you do for me on a daily basis. You are what is giving me the strength to get on this plane.

La docle vita can be wherever I am.


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Sunday, October 3, 2010

It is the waves

Today is my second to last day with the waves. I will miss them.
Today I spent the last hour wet to my knees in salt water. The little Myrtle Beach waves crashing at my side as I wander along the shore.
Today I am writing an email I do not know how to write.
Today I am reading a book to help me understand the world.
Today I am sitting watching the water for the 16th hour this weekend (I achieved my goal of not doing much else ;-)).
Today I'm eating lunch with my aunt. It has been so great getting to know her. I feel so lucky to have such a great family.
Today I might fall asleep in the sun (don't worry Ma I put sunscreen on).
Today I am watching the 100th surfer ride the waves (please note I said ride not surf. Apparently it is quite the thing to do here in MB. Go out on your board and sit on it and let the waves come and go. You get a great little roller-coaster ride. Up and down up and down. If this qualifies as surfing out here sign mr up!)
Today I am enjoying my last 24 hours of vacation. Thank you to everyone who helped me get here.




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Saturday, October 2, 2010

it is the sand

Yesterday I walked along the shore for hours (I'm thinking 3 or 4) and I now know why beach people have such tight feet. My toes are still sore this morning. I walked and walked and very little deep thought encroached on my solitude. When I did stop to ponder my spot in this world, seemingly small standing next to such an immense body of water, I thought about what in my life had brought me to this point then I turned around and saw not a single footprint. It was like the past didn't matter. I am here, that is all that mattered, in front of me was a clean slate of untouched sand. I was on a fresh path. No one was leading me, nor was I following anyone. It was like every step was a new beginning and every time I moved forward it washed away. Let the past be your past and let your future be your own.








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It is a drunk

Last night I went to my Aunt's restaurant to hang out and watch karaoke. The end of the evening was spent with the resident Friday night drunk. Big drunk ex-lawyers are hilarious let me tell you. Besides asking me and my aunt every few minutes if we would go home with him he gave me a brief rundown on who he thought I was. He asked if I had children, when I told him no he said well you will and you will be a great mother, I can tell these things. He also said that one day I would meet a boy and make him a man and we would be very happy. You'll be very happy and you'll make him very happy, I can see these things. Now for the record I believe he had 8 or nine jack & cokes but I do hope his drunk predictions come true :-)


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Friday, October 1, 2010

it is the water


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it is the beach

Oh yes my first beach blog, there will hopefully be several ;-). My Aunt J graciously took me to the shore last night upon learning that I had not seen the water for 10 years, we stopped for 5
minutes before dinner. I walked down the little path to the sand. I have to admit I had a moment of fear. You know when you build something up in your head and you have all these wonderful expectations and when you finally get to that moment it falls terribly short and you are left with a sinking disappointment? But I am happy to say it lived up to all my memories. I couldn't wipe the smile off my face, kept giggling and then almost cried (how embarrassing!). I am so dramatic ;-). More to come I am sure.