I'm sitting here on a wonderfully snowy day at the little shop on the corner looking out at quilt of white all over the world. Piping through the speakers right now is the song Sunday Kind Of Love. There are 100's of love songs out there. In fact just about all lyrics ever written are about some sort of love. First love, lost love, heartbreak love, passionate love, simple love, God's love, friendship love, mistreated love etc etc. It begs the question why are we as humans so caught up on the idea of love? I cannot answer that right now, my mind is not educated in that way. But maybe someone knows the answer and I bet it's a good one. But I think that we were created by love to love and so we look for someone to love. Our mate if you will. Often we get it wrong we live in an imperfect world so it is only to be expected that we will not know perfect love.
What is love?Love is a lot of things. But love is just love. It is not a fairy tale, it is not a knight who comes to save his fair maiden from the mouth of a dragon. It just is. It makes me wonder if prehistoric man searched for love or do you think they were much more practicle on the matter, I need wife to service my hormones and cook me food and raise children. I would like to think they knew what love was and as they grew to appreciate their wife's cooking and baby raising etc that they somehow, even if it didn't start out that way, eventually loved in their own way. Maybe I'm just a romantic.
Girls in love have it a bit worse than boys. Boys can do something about it, girls just have to wait for the boy to make his move. And let me tell you waiting is no fun, agonizing is more like it. And what if you mess up? What if you are not good at the whole flirting thing and you miss read signs and you inadvertantly turn them down? What then? Jane Austen in her novels always allowed for mistakes by both the man and the woman. Each of them were allowed to fail miserably but they always were allowed to communicate their feelings and explain themselves in the end. I would like to hope that whoever is out there for me will not expect movie magic when we meet, go out etc. But will expect me to fall on my face (figuratively speaking of course) and will allow me to explain myself.
-- Posted From My iPhone so please excuse the typos!
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Friday, September 14, 2007
Birds and the Bees, Flowers and Trees
After a great intellectual, somewhat insulting (towards me) discussion with a guy friend of mine i was left to ponder the differences of men and women and why we are different and should be treated as such. There are obvious physical differences that I am sure we would all agree upon. But there are also many emotional and hormonal differences that i believe, at least in my circle of friends, that normally fall into the category of PMS (at the moment I am writing this I would like everyone to know that no, it is not that time of month). When I think of people getting married, which is actually how this subject came up, I find it very interesting to see who people choose to become their life partner, their other half. Most of my friends are married, getting married or in a committed relationship that will most probably end in marriage. Fortunately or unfortunately this is not the case for me. I have been told that I am too passionate a person, expect too much from a man, and that fiery people have more to work on to become a good Christian (and no he was not dating me). Now I know that I am a passionate person and I am a bit headstrong but it fits my life. I cannot express enough at how one day I would hope to find my equal that I would be able to spend the rest of my life with. I am searching for someone who is equally passionate, is strong in places I am weak and fit together so that we would be as one.
Now to hopefully clear the air for my good friend I will attempt to explain the way I view the differences in men and women in hopefully clear terms. I do believe deep in my heart that every woman should be respected like a princess. Now before you get up in arms boys, I also believe that every man should be respected like a prince. I feel that the lack of respect that the general population holds for one another is entirely appalling and should be addressed. Now I would hope that we all agree that princes and princesses have entirely different roles. The prince is to be groomed for leadership, taught in the art of war, prepared to defend his people. While the princess is to be the giver, the lover of charity and have the compassion to help the less fortunate. When you look at history you can see the great royalties that have made an impact on the world around them. Such as, King Wenseslas of Bohemia, Queen Elanor of Aquitaine, Elizabeth 1 of England, King Arthur, Saint George. All who stood for a greater purpose and were respectful of everyman and wholly devoted to the women that they loved.
A woman is like a flower. For the all the different kinds of flowers there are equally types of women. Flowers need different attention then say a tree. Some women are like orchids or african violets who need extra special attention and care. Others could be compared to mums, daisies or zinias, who need minimal attention but you still need to nip and feed and water them, while still others are of the wild variety thriving on their own, making do with what they can. And the same goes for trees, as I would liken to men, the majority of trees grow very well where they are planted, many grown strong without added assistance. Though there are varieties of trees that are more sensitive that require more care (respect) than others. In the plant kingdom we also find that there can be perfect harmony among these two species (marriage). Take for example the fruit bearing tree where the tree, after it has grown and come into itself supplies the support needed for the blossom (the woman) providing it the nutrients and water (care and respect) that is needed for her to bear fruit (not to be taken in the literal sense that all women must bear children because "fruit" can be love, care and admiration, or anything else that is needed by the man). Or you could see pansies thriving under the shade of a big strong oak.
All of this is to say that we all need and deserve respect. Each and every human, passionate or dull, black or purple, weak or strong. And we also need to know who we are so that we can find the correct match. Because you see a zinia will not do well under the shade of a weeping willow. No we are all perfect because we are all imperfect and we should learn to love our imperfects selves and love the other perfect (imperfect) people around us.
Now to hopefully clear the air for my good friend I will attempt to explain the way I view the differences in men and women in hopefully clear terms. I do believe deep in my heart that every woman should be respected like a princess. Now before you get up in arms boys, I also believe that every man should be respected like a prince. I feel that the lack of respect that the general population holds for one another is entirely appalling and should be addressed. Now I would hope that we all agree that princes and princesses have entirely different roles. The prince is to be groomed for leadership, taught in the art of war, prepared to defend his people. While the princess is to be the giver, the lover of charity and have the compassion to help the less fortunate. When you look at history you can see the great royalties that have made an impact on the world around them. Such as, King Wenseslas of Bohemia, Queen Elanor of Aquitaine, Elizabeth 1 of England, King Arthur, Saint George. All who stood for a greater purpose and were respectful of everyman and wholly devoted to the women that they loved.
A woman is like a flower. For the all the different kinds of flowers there are equally types of women. Flowers need different attention then say a tree. Some women are like orchids or african violets who need extra special attention and care. Others could be compared to mums, daisies or zinias, who need minimal attention but you still need to nip and feed and water them, while still others are of the wild variety thriving on their own, making do with what they can. And the same goes for trees, as I would liken to men, the majority of trees grow very well where they are planted, many grown strong without added assistance. Though there are varieties of trees that are more sensitive that require more care (respect) than others. In the plant kingdom we also find that there can be perfect harmony among these two species (marriage). Take for example the fruit bearing tree where the tree, after it has grown and come into itself supplies the support needed for the blossom (the woman) providing it the nutrients and water (care and respect) that is needed for her to bear fruit (not to be taken in the literal sense that all women must bear children because "fruit" can be love, care and admiration, or anything else that is needed by the man). Or you could see pansies thriving under the shade of a big strong oak.
All of this is to say that we all need and deserve respect. Each and every human, passionate or dull, black or purple, weak or strong. And we also need to know who we are so that we can find the correct match. Because you see a zinia will not do well under the shade of a weeping willow. No we are all perfect because we are all imperfect and we should learn to love our imperfects selves and love the other perfect (imperfect) people around us.
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