it is new

The current road I am on is full of uncertainty. I have more questions than I have answers. I am afraid of the unknown. If last year's goal was to teach me how to let go, this year is seemig to want me to learn to trust. As I'm heading down this path my only comfort is the call of the wild. I cannot wait to be surrounded by the silence that can only be found in the wood. I am certain I will find the answers in the quiet. 

it is 8months of learning

This month signifies 8 months of being with my man. Next month it will be a year since we met. That also means it will have been one year since I moved to Moab, started this amazing journey that changed my life forever. As always with life changing, growing and learning it has not been all sunshine. Of course the storms there are rainbows to remind us of God's love as we go through this journey. I am so grateful for the bravery I had to take the first huge step and pack up my car and head west. I continue to pray and learn to be brave, strong, gracious, kind, loving and a better person than I was yesterday. 

I painted this for my love, I definitely took some artistic liberties of how Tucson actually is but I wanted to show him how beautiful I find his home. Learning to love someone in all their places and with all their pieces has been a challenge for me but I am grateful I have a patient man by my side. And one of the things I love about him the most is that he always supports my art. Even though it's far from anything I actually consider art, he loves each piece ❤️

its a chance for life

This blog has been a long time coming. I wrote it 4 months ago when I left Moab and I just got around to editing it (though I'm sure its far from perfect but I'm going to go ahead and roll with it). The Summer I rode 31 horses I am quite certain my father thought I had lost my mind when I told him I was moving to Moab, UT. I had worked hard at my career for ten years, working my way up, just about to achieve my goal when I decided I didn’t want it. Not only did I not want it, I realized it might kill me if I got it. In fact, it had already begun to kill part of me. That realization came to me, on the floor of my shower screaming in pain as my heart broke and the man I loved disappeared from my life. After the tears subsided and I could breathe again I felt an overwhelming need to break free. I knew I needed a change. With a stubborn mind I set my course and started on my way. Selling or giving away everything that I didn’t need, I packed up my little car and planned to camp in Moab Utah for the next six months in hope of finding a job, an adventure, but most importantly I hoped to find me. As I drove across the country I was met with a feeling of ultimate freedom. In giving everything up, everything I had put on myself, everything I felt like I was expected to do, excepted to want, expected to have I found that when I let myself go out of that box I had kept myself in I found total freedom. It was amazing! It was like I was seeing the world for the first time. Possibilities of my future flooded my mind. I could feel weight I hadn’t even realized I was carrying lifting off me. I had received a job offer the day before I got in the car. I was surprised and blessed. It was a tangible proof from God that I would be OK and that I was doing what I was supposed to do. The job was exactly what I had hoped I would find. I was going to be a horseback trail guide through the Moab desert! Horses had been an exceptionally important part of my childhood. After college however financial and business demand made it impossible to compete and I was lucky if I made it to the barn to see my horses a couple times a week. I was so exited to be able to get in touch with that part of me that I had allowed to be shut off for so long. The job was at a 4 star resort off the beaten path along the Colorado River and much to my mother’s delight, it came with housing. I remember laying in the dorm bed the first night, I was amazed at how lucky and blessed I was to have a roof, four walls and a kitchen. Then I had a panicked thought, would I be too comfortable to actually change my life? Would I still be pushed to my limits? Would I still be challenged to find myself? The self I had forgotten, the self that I had denied life? The beautiful, strong, courageous, uninhibited woman that I was meant to be? I had planned to live in a tent, to sweat, to bleed, to be ultimately alone so that I could find me. The fact that I had modern comforts, would that change my outcome? I promised myself that night, I would seek adventure and nature every chance I got. And I did. I hiked and explored whenever I could. It helped that my job was outside. In the heat, in the sun, I was cut and tried hours a day. By the horses I was asked to give and give and communicate and love. And I gave and gave and loved the wonderful beings with every ounce I had. There were two of us, just two to care for 31 horses, two pigs, 12 bunnies, six goats 14 chickens and three miniature ponies. It was a lot of work. Hot work. But I did it. I sweat and cried and muscled through the work. And I loved. I loved the horses. I loved the pigs and even though they were annoyingly loud and smelly I loved the goats. I learned all their personalities and quirks. I grew the confidence as a rider that I had lost as the career took over. Running through the hills, feeling the wind in my face, tasting the freedom that comes from the connection between horse and rider. Nothing else in the world exists except your two heartbeats racing the wind. Daring your horse to go faster, to stretch further. The more he trusts you the faster he runs, the more sure-footed he becomes, the higher the mountains you can climb. The more I rode the more relaxed and happy I became. The more free my heart felt. The more tired my body was the more peaceful my soul became. With the housing came people. There was on average 40 people living in three large housing units with multiple dorms. I worked and lived with these people, cook outs and evening drinks and parties in the common area outside our dorms built a quazi-family since we had all left our homes to live in the middle of nowhere. I made a friend, my neighbor, who had become my confidant and my only true friend in Moab. It was good to have connection far from everything familiar. It was good to have someone smile when they saw me come home after a long day. It was good to have someone to talk to as my heart went through so many emotions. Two months into the summer, my friend and I went camping to Bryce Canyon and the Dixie National Forest. The stunning rock formations, the pine trees and the eagles called my name. As we hiked through the wild I began to feel free. More and more free. I felt another weight come off me. Like the eagles above I could feel my heart begin to fly. And I flew. And my friend, he let me. He watched as my heart took flight, he supported me and smiled as I ran through the trails. And in that moment my heart that had been broken more times than it should have, my mind that had been stretched beyond all possibilities became whole. The healing that began months ago on my shower floor suddenly accelerated. It was going to fast for my brain to keep up. I found myself almost afraid. My mind didn’t trust my tender heart. I spent the next week arguing with myself, weighing possibilities, thinking of every possible outcome I could think of, reminding my heart that if I failed it would hurt again. I took a drive, a long drive through the mountains and into Colorado. I was supposed to meet up with a new friend and camp out at a music festival. When I got to the festival location I realized all I wanted to do was be back at the ranch and talking with my best friend. I finally allowed myself the answer. My little broken heart and bruised mind and injured soul had found a way to love again. In the abandonment of everything I had known, I found everything I had ever wanted. I cannot tell you how my life will turn out. I cannot tell you what my future will hold. But I can tell you this. I had lost myself. I had lost my soul, my passion, my happiness, my peace and most of all my strength. And in losing all of me I was forced to fight for me. I found the courage to search. I found a value in myself worth investing in. Most importantly I found out that I the strength to do it. I could live. I could live fully, happily, freely. So no matter what happens in my future I have the keys to unlock my potential and the courage to open those doors, walk through those challenges and not lose myself in the process. Only going through the darkness can we appreciate the light and now that my fire is lit again I will not allow it to be put out. Thank you to each of my friends and family members who allowed me to go. Thank you for believing in who I am. Thank you for the constant love and support. I could not have done this without you even though ultimately I had to do it on my own.

it is the ride

Life is never what we think it will be. But it's ok. Better actually. Enjoy the ride. I'll try to remember to. 

I am Woman

Recently I have found myself talking to women about what it means to be a woman. I believe the answer is different for every woman. However, I also believe we share similar traits and common core elements. This poem came to me last night at a concert as I watched the women around me react differently, than each other but more importantly they reacted differently than the men. I don't believe this poem is perfect or for all women but like everything I post in this blog it is for me. And if you enjoy it, well that's awesome. 💖B

Remember I am a woman and I am soft. 

The world speaks to me differently fhan you. 

People react to me in different ways. 

When I touch something it does not feel the same to me as you. 

Remember I am a woman and my emotions run deep. 

So deep sometimes I don't understand them. 

They swirl and change and are powerful. They should be respected not shunned. 

Remember I am woman and I love to watch things grow. 

Children, flowers, men. 

I see the potential in all and I will feed that potential even if it kills me. 

Remember I am a woman and I break. 

And when I break it hurts differently.  

It breaks me to the core and my pieces shatter across the earth. 

  

Remember I am woman and my spirit soars. 

When the wind touches my hair my soul flies with it. 

Freedom breathes life into me. 

Remember I am woman and I am strong. I can suffer a universe of pain to give life. 

I can carry you when you cannot stand.

I can start a fire that could take over the world. 

I can heal with a kiss. 

I can cure with a word

I can forgive unspeakable wrongs.

Remember I am woman and my love is power. 

I can love into the darkest fathoms. 

I can love the unlovable. 

My love can heal the world. 

My love can change your life. 

My love can change the world. 

 

it is the sun

The natural light show that slow that slowly births light across the land reminds me that time is ever marching towards an untold future. The sun whispers in my ear, "today is going to be a good day." I go out and seek the goodness. Allow any negativity to disappear with the morning rays. I welcome the newness of today. I welcome the joy and warmth of the sun. I welcome the future. I welcome life. 

it is soul jewels

The tree is only as strong as its roots. And the roots grow according to what they are fed. If you starve the tree of good things the roots will shrivel and struggle. If you flush the tree with good water and sunshine the roots will take hold and the tree will climb to great hieghts providing shelter, food and comfort for those around him. Our souls is like a tree. If we starve our souls from goodness we do not have goodness to give. If we flood our souls wth love, caring, compassion, forgiveness, joy and peace we will in turn grow and thrive and be able to give those good things to others.  

it is free flight

Yesterday I took the chance and went and found some wild mustangs. For the record it was better than I imagined. I was able to get quite close to these magnificent animals. I work with horses every day and see them running through fields, climbing mountains and jumping fences however seeing these untouched creatures was astounding. While I was sitting eating a picnic lunch with my beau I thought about what has taken place in my life to get me to that place. The short answer is a lot has happened. The biggest step that I think I took is letting go. Of everything. If I hadn't taken that leap and cleared out my life and my brain, I would not have been up on top of that mountain searching for wild ponies. I would not have focused on healing my heart for 4 months and actually putting the pieces back together, I would not have found bits of myself I had lost along the way and I would not have learned to bloom. I am so grateful I listened to that voice inside. I am so grateful I found myself here on this adventure. And I am so glad I put myself back together so that I could open myself back up to love. And what a beautiful day that was when my heart finally felt free. When it could soar above all the pain that's been holding it back for so many years.  I am grateful for the people who let me go as well. My friends and family who listened to me and allowed me to go on this crazy whim of an adventure. Without their blessing and support it would have been a lot harder to fly. ❤️

it is good

I am sitting in front of a lake surrounded by pine trees. The butterflies dance amongst the sun rays. The mountain stream rushes past my ear as to fill my soul with her power. The birds sing in the air as the fish splash the water, both celebrating their life and freedom in this magnificent home. The faint sound of a fellow camper playing his guitar floats up from behind me. The ambient chords make no song I know, just the bringing the knowledge of a person adding his gift to what lays around me. It is no wonder God looked at his creation and said it is good. 

it is hiking solo

There is something great about hiking solo. At the beginning of the hike my mind starts out full of junk, this person, that person, this work thing, did I say that wrong, what do I think about what random subject etc. At some point I get tired, my legs, my lungs or whatever else I worked hard the day before starts to be sore and I have to start pushing myself to go forward. While I'm pushing and pursuing the end of the trail, while my body is focusing on deep breaths and steady steps my mind turns off. I don't realize this has happened until I stop for a drink, as I look around my resting spot I start to absorb my surroundings. I begin to soak in the nature, the creativity and the power of it all. It gives me the push to continue on. And at some point in my silent mind and my tired body I start to feel powerful. That power courses through my veins. It starts chanting in my head good and beautiful things about you. I start to feel the love the universe has for me. I start to believe the good things it says about me. I become the powerful and strong and beautiful woman I was intended to be. My weight doesn't matter, my hair doesn't matter, my social awkwardness doesn't matter. I feel wild, fierce and BEAUTIFUL. By the time I reach my destination I am recharged and refueled. When I head for home my feet are lighter. My smile is brighter and my heart is full of happiness. 

it is love itself

A few days ago while I was meditating by the river I was struck with an amazing thought. It was a continuation of the gratitude that filled my heart the day before and it manifested in an epiphical sort of way. 

To start, I meditate in a unique way, I believe meditation and prayer are the most personal things you can do and so I believe it should express your individuality and personality. Since I started this slow journey of meditation and contemplation several years ago I have found the focus on one thing to bring me the most peace/joy/enlightenment or whatever other intention I am seeking, I focus on creation. I delve into nature in all her beauty and wonderment, I focus on her strength and power, and most importantly I focus on my smallness. I also focus on her energy, I believe that if you were to sum up the perfect energy that oozes from nature it would be love. I believe that God designed this nature to reflect his love for this world and to share his love with us. 

So while I was sitting and listening to the roar of the rapid, the call of the birds and as the sun kissed my face I focused on those things. And while I was contemplating the wonderment of it all it struck me, not only was this world made up of love it was in fact love itself. 

In my mind love is the biggest word is little humans can use. Love engulfs lots of other words. Love is like the big umbrella giving us all the goodness in the world. Without love we have no peace, forgiveness, joy, kindness. I'm not talking about romantic love, I'm not staying if your single you have none of these things. I'm talking about what love actually is. Imagine a world without any love. Think about what we would be missing. How dark the world would actually be if we never knew what love is? 

As I'm sitting there realizing that this world is love itself, not just a reflection, not just made up of love but the river IS love, the trees ARE  love, the bird's song IS  love how great a realization that I am not surrounded by an image of love but love itself. 

That next day I drove to CO to witness my little sister's wedding. I was surrounded by family and friends and new family and friends. Joy and happiness were everywhere. Two eccentric and beautiful people had found their other puzzle piece and joined many people from many parts of the world to celebrate their pleasure. I wish more of the world could have seen the smiling faces and heard the laughter and felt the joyous love that came from each guest. It truly was a remarkable experience and I couldn't be happier for my sister and her husband. 

After the wedding, before we all started to head our different ways my side of the family and several friends from both sides gathered at our rent house and continued the celebration. The most amazing thing was that this joy from all day carried into the night igniting new friendships and rekindling old. All the while as I sat on the deck and enjoyed the company of so many around me I just kept thinking, thank you for surrounding me with love, thank you for filling up my cup with true and unmuddled love. For you see if nature is infact love so must we be also. We are not just a vessel for love but we ourselves are love itself. 

it is gratitude

I am grateful for:

💛 my sisters. For teaching me to love people who are different than myself. 

💙 my parents. For teaching me that hard work and grace bloom into love.

💚 everyone that has sung me a song or drawn me a picture. For teaching me the love of art even in its simplest of forms. 

💜 my best friends. For teaching me by example how to stand by someone through all their mistakes. 

💛 anyone that has ever hurt me. For teaching me how to heal. 

💚 every stranger that has ever shown me kindness. For teaching me there is good everywhere.

it is a refueling

I am finding the importance of enjoying ones own company. I'm also finding it to be quite freeing. There is no pressure from the outside world to make me happy. I am finally, slowly, tapping back into my own internal happiness. For so long I allowed pressure and stress to get the better of me. Now I am finding myself refueled. I am filling my heart back up with love for the world. My meditation today was magnificent. It was a little shorter than I expected but I found myself lifted to space, floating above this beautiful blue planet. Looking down on her magic and majesty I was filled with the love of the Creator in a way I have not felt in a very long time. When I opened my eyes and saw His creative handiwork in front of me I was hit with a rush of joy that overcame my fears and doubts and suddenly everything was alright. 

Thank you for putting me in this place. Thank you for giving me enough wisdom to listen. Please God grant me wisdom and grant me peace. 

it is the gaining of courage

I've been out here for a month. Not long. I have 5 months to go, which seems long. 

I told my Dad before I left that I knew where I wanted to end up in my life I just don't know how to get there. My Mom often says you need space to think. She's right. Stress often clouds the creative mind. 

I definitely have time to think now. And no I don't know how I'm going to get to where I want to go. But I'm finding myself gaining courage for the journey ahead. And excitement for all the plans and work to come. Cheers to the future and the path ahead! 

it is the sweet smell of spring

The desert is in bloom. There are flowers everywhere. Tamarisk trees and Russian olive trees are so fragrant. I drove last night as dusk settled on the river, my windows down, hair blowing in the sweet sweet breeze, the air smelled like someone sugar coated it and then sprinkled it with campfire.

it is the answer unknown

I have been trying to write this post for weeks, maybe now it's actually been months, the words struggle to present themselves. Too many thoughts, not enough articulation and at the bottom of it all I truly dont know know the answer. 

I recently moved to the middle or nowhere western America. It's supposed to be hot and dry, which I am sure it eventually will be, however it's been chilly and overcast most of my first weeks in the desert. I came here for adventure. To free my heart from the prison I have been keeping it in. Like all good adventures it is not what it is expected to be. 

I have done this once before in my life and I put so many expectations and demands on it I failed to live. I learned and grew a lot in my time at the beach. But I failed at peace, enchantment and magic. I moved to the ocean to break out of a mental rut. I had thought by moving I would find everything I had ever wanted, a husband, a farm, an amazing beach tan body, inner peace, and a light that would glow from my insides and bring everyone around me happiness like a freaking Saint. Instead I found a couple heart aches, a condo (which I loved), I was tan but not swimsuit model pretty, some stress, and I was no saint. Three years have passed since I up and moved to SC and looking back I can see that it was my expectations that stunted my trip. I did however, learn to be assertive, learn more about people and places. However the best gift it gave me was a summer with my grandparents. I would not change that for millions and I am so happy I had that time with them. Seeing love in a 60+ year marriage through cancer and heartache is a beautiful testament to my family and the human race. 

So here I am again, moving across the country to heal a broken heart. I am trying desperately to learn from my past mistakes. I am putting as few expectations on this adventure as possible. I have things I would like to accomplish while I am here. But I am accepting the fact they might not happen. The only thing I am requiring of myslef is that I will say yes to each adventure presented to me.

The big question though is why? Why did I sell or toss most of my belongings? Why did I quit my job pack my car and move without a safety net? Without a plan? Without a job? Without a house to come to? The simplest answer I have is, because I had too. 

As I have said before I am attempting to heal from a heat break this summer. And it's not just one. Last year I was dumped three times. The first was sad because I enjoyed his company so much, it was nice not to be lonely, to have someone enjoyable around at any given moment. The second was sad because I had great hopes for our future. We wanted the same dream and I thought we would work together to get it. The third however was devestating. Not only did we have the same dreams, I enjoyed him and I loved his heart. 

When I was sitting a week later at my usual spot with my usual people one of my friends in finding out I was again single said, "you just get bored with these guys don't you?" This actually was a huge breakthrough for me, so thank you Heather. This whole time each of these guys dumped me I felt like I was due for the dumping. Like I had failed somehow or another, I wasn't something, not pretty enough, not funny enough, not smart enough, I was somehow lacking in my person so that it was impossible to for me to be loved. And no matter how many times my family or friends would comfort me and tell me it just wasn't the right guy, time or what have you I still felt like I was lacking and at the end of the day it was my fault they left me. And Heather, beautifully and simply told me unknowingly that I was. In that question she said that for sure these guys wouldn't be choosing to leave me, her friend whom she loves. That surely I was the independent strong woman she saw me as and I was moving on because these men where not enough for me. They weren't enough for me? I not once in all the times friends and family would comfort me, not once did I consider they were not enough for me. That I was too great for them. And it's not because they are not great people. They just might not be my great. 

The trick is that even though she said it, and it struck my heart, resonated in my mind, I don't feel like that woman my family and friends see me as. And suddenly sitting in that place the words of friends and exes for years hit me in a different way. And I went back through loves and losses and kept going back to the first love I had. The first love that sent me on a path or searching and self discovery I realized in learning and growing and searching I had in fact lost my fun. 

There is a song on country radio, "That don't sound like you" by Lee Brice. I was listening to this song driving to or from work and I started to cry. Because that happy, bold, brave, adventurous girl had been replaced by a shadow of herself. Years of letting people into my heart had created so many scars and dark spots that I didn't recognize myself. And if my first love had seen me that day he wouldn't have seen the spark in my eye that he had been so attracted to. And my heart cried out for saving for healing but most of all for freedom. 

I watched a Ted Talk by Shonda Rhimes where she talks about losing her "hum" and in losing it she discovered what her true hum is. As I was absorbing her words I thought about how I used to feel. I used to feel like a tornado, at any time I could muster up the strength inside me to be such a powerful wind nothing could knock me down or blow me over. I wasn't a bad or destructive tornado mind you it was just that inside I felt like such a strong force I felt as powerful as a tornado. And when I was busy as work or life I felt like I was a sun and all my projects, tables, people, jobs where orbiting around my head in perfect harmony so that I could accomplish so much more that the person next to me. I haven't felt that in years. In fact the last time I felt so powerful was when I was dating the bartender. That was 5 years ago. And the last time I felt like a sun was in SC. That was 3 years ago. 

So when I say in my simplest answer that I needed to come to UT it is just that. I don't know if I will find my strength. I don't know if I will find my fun. I don't know if I will find my happy. But I am giving myself permission to look for it. I am giving my heart permission to be free from heart break, free from worry. I am givjng myslef permission to be at peace with myslef. And most of all I am telling myself that I am enough. That I may not be perfect but that I am enough. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of happiness. I am worthy of peace. 

it is finding my brave

I cried 3 times today. 

Today was the first day I was alone since I've moved to Utah. So I decided on my adventure a few days ago did proper research and set out to accomplish a childhood dream, to see wild horses and burros actually in the wild :-). The closest herd to me is a burro herd in the San Rafael Swell. I drove rocky roads for three hours and had just about given up when I saw them. Three, out of a herd of 50.  A momma her baby and a friend grazing against a stormy sky. When I saw them I surprised myself with tears. I was so happy! When I was a child I had read all the Marguerite Henry books. One of my favorite being "Brighty of the Grabd Canyon"  about a little burro who lived in the canyon. I was over the moon to see these little burros today!  I walked carefully out into the field getting as close as they'd let me which was about 500 feet and snapped photos to my hearts delight. I thanked the burros and left the park with the biggest smile in my heart. 

The second time I cried I was hiking up Goblin valley to a cave called "The Goblin's Lair". I am not afraid of much, but I do have an irrational fear of dying in a cave. So as I climbed what looked like a rockslide to climb back down the rockslide into the cave to turn around and do the whole thing again, I cried. This time in fear of my life. My brain kept telling my feet not to move towards my certain doom. But I pushed and pushed and made it up and down and in and out. I will need to go back a few times this summer to truly overcome this fear but I made a good start. As I was climbing by myself I realized how alone I was in that moment. No other hikers, no friends or family around it was me and my fear. But I did it, all by myself like a big girl :-). 

The third time I cried was because I had forgotten my heart was broken. I explored the first valley after my cave climb and was in awe of these sculptures. The most remarkable thing was the fact that though they were hard as rock you could peel layers of sand away from them. It was the most fascinating thing I had seen or felt.  And at the end of my day when I reached for my phone to tell that someone about this magical place I had found myself in I remembered that I couldn't and that brought the heartache. But I stopped and smiled and remembered something a fellow instagrammer had shared about seeing the creativity in nature. And so I did and then I laughed at the childlike cartoon characters that surrounded me. And the tears dried up and the joy took hold and I took a deep breath of the present happiness. 

I am far from perfect, far from whole, far from breaking through the chains that have been holding me back. But today I found my brave each and every step of the way. With a little luck and a lot of hard work I may just find myself again. :-)

it is the servers nightmare

It's been almost two weeks since I worked in a restaurant and almost a month since I've managed one. But I am still having "server dreams". For those of you who have done my job in the past you know what I'm talking about. The constant worry you forgot something for some table manifests into dreams about impossible parties, awkward road blocks to get your table simple things like water, doors in random places to knock over your tray. When your a manager the dreams are worse. Mostly server dreams make you feel like a rat running a maze. Manager dreams usually come with a nice strong heap of failure attached to them. 

My restaurant dreams seem to all follow the same pattern, I am a happy little FOH (front of house or floor manager) checking on tables refilling drinks and trusting my BOH (back of house or kitchen manager) to be doing their job. Then everything crashes, tables have been waiting 30 minutes for their brownie, people are restless and hungry, so I step back into the kitchen to help out. (For those of you who haven't ever had to step into a crashed kitchen to dig them out, let me tell you, it's not fun. Basically imagine so much chaos and information being thrown at you you feel like you just stepped into the heart of a tornado. There's massive amount of movement and yelling. You not only have to focus in the chaos you have to fix a moving changing puzzle. Restauarnt people have a lingo. Being in the weeds means you are so in over your head you can't see the light above nor a path to get and you don't have any sense of direction. Basically it's the worst feeling in the world. You have too many people wanting too many things in too many directions and your brain is full. Full to the max overload. When the kitchen is in the weeds, it's worse. You don't know what's cooking which table it's for or if you have enough fries down. The entire goal of every shift is to NOT GET WEEDED. Because when is happens it is hell to get out of.)  As a manager you get blamed for everything. And lovely patrons who don't care that you've been working for 10 hours and have 5 more to go, had three cooks out sick, you had to fire a server for being high as a kite when he showed up or that you've been trying your best to be 5 people doing 6 jobs all night all they care about is that they had to wait 25 minutes for their meatloaf and it didn't have enough green beans. And because it didn't have enough green beans and he was hungry and had to wait he would like me to know that it is entirely my fault and I don't know what I'm doing or how to run a restaurant. Thank you sir, I was unaware that I was such a failure. I appreciate the fact that you brought it to my attention. 

All this is to say my lovelies, be kind to your servers, bartenders, managers and cook staff. We are all human, we make mistakes. Please forgive us. Because trust me we are all dreaming through our guilt of forgetting your extra ranch three weeks ago. 

Now I for one and grateful I get to destress for a while and hopefully these dreams will eventually cease. 

it is the relief of freedom

I have got to say driving through this open country, I don't think I have ever felt so free. The vastness of the sky. The wind whipping my face. Going where I want to, for how long or when I want. I can feel the restraints of the career and expectations being lifted. During this morning's hike I found myslef crying. Not from sadness and not from joy. Rather tears of relief as I let my past go. 

it is a new year

My new year does not ever begin on my birthday or the calendar new year it begins in March. And so this year, like every other, I can feel the universe shifting underneath me. I set out on a journey to find myself three years ago when I moved across the country to South Carolina and this path of discovery has led to more to be discovered. So as the this new year awakens I am finding myself moving again. This time west to Utah. I am going to lose myself in the desert and hopefully as I lose parts of me I will find the solid strong pieces of my heart.